ABOUT US

Names have been changed due to legal reason

My eldest is 4 years old

My youngest is 1 years old

I feel I have not really had a chance to talk , and the impact of the situations and inhumane act the local authority has inflicted on myself and My partner , leading up to and after which was one of the most devastating , heart-breaking times of my life the day in question was Friday 11th of January 2019 .

 

Wednesday 9th January 2019

My child birthday was just 3 days ago , and we were all getting over the excitement of the little birthday party we have thrown for him , myself and My partner took my beautiful baby boy to nursery that day and went home with youngest baby and began to clear the decorations from the party and continue are usual routine of giving my youngest his lunch and play a few games with him , we went to pick  my eldest up from nursery , and went home to continue are routine my eldest took his uniform of ready for the washing machine ( the heating is always on and are home is very warm ) , and wrapped himself in his dressing gown , and played a few games while the children’s tea was cooking , my eldest was very tired after nursery so he decided to go for a nap I seemed no harm in a little nap he was asleep for about 1 hour tea was nearly ready so I put my youngest  in his high chair and was about to wake my eldest  up then my partner was going to serve dinner , when there suddenly was a loud knock at the door I remember thinking “ who would it be a 5pm in the afternoon” , my partner went to answer the door so I stayed in the room with my youngest  , all of a sudden 4 people walked into my living room and surrounded me all claiming to be from social services , they were all firing questions at me saying they have come because of an allegation from the nursery , i felt intimated and somewhat confused and was trying to piece together what they were saying and asking me , then my partner informed me that 2 of them where not who they previous said they were in fact they were police officers this situation became even more intimidating and nerve racking and very confusing and left me questioning why would they lie about their authority , and it only became worse when only one officer displayed his badge the social worker and the police officer then walked off into my sons room where he was still peacefully sleeping and woke him up they then proceed to pull him around and examine all his body for bruises and other injuries , my child was confused and a little bit frightened , my partner was in the comforting are child while I remained in the room with the other officer and social worker , and  , they both started firing more questions at me looking at me and talking to me like I was a no one and I was worthless I found this very intimidating then the other officer and social worker walked in and they all stood outside the front for a chat and wouldn’t tell either myself or my partner what was going on at this point I was becoming a little over whelmed so I contacted miss (my sister) , and my mother in law and they were round in 10 minutes once the social workers and police where done with their chat they all come back in one again firing more questions at me the police said they had no concerns and neither did their boss but the social worker disagreed and said there was but if myself and my partner signed this bit of paper saying that my partner wasn’t to be left alone with the children and we took my eldest to the drs in the morning there will be no worries everything will be fine and we won’t hear from them till the next meeting , we agreed to sign , my sister informed me that I need to put a line under the signatures so neither party can add anything the social worker then became outraged by this saying that she’s concerned that I don’t trust her and I shouldn’t need to put a line , I still put the line , once signed they left without telling us what just went on , are minds baffled we continued are routine , and said goodbye to are family .

 

Thursday 10th January 2019

After the events of the previous day me and my partner My partner where left extremely confused , and we couldn’t begin to imagine the impact it had on are children , we tried to distract their minds and continue to the normal day routine we had are breakfast , and got the boys dressed and went to the DR’S , as requested on the previous day , as suspected the dr diagnosed my eldest with dermatitis and head-lice and agreed with myself and my partner that we should treat the dermatitis first and consider shaving my eldest  hair to help the dermatitis heal , once finished at the drs we took my eldest to nursery , and proceeded home with my youngest  , we prepared tea ready to cook for when my eldest  is home , we gave Reggie his dinner and went to collect my eldest from nursery , we were stood outside the nursery and we thought nothing of it but a lady and a gentleman approached us and asked where the reception was we pointed them in the right direction , and continued to wait for my eldest  once the door was opened the nursery told my partner to wait outside with my youngest but due to the agreement we were made to sign this was not allowed so I waited half in half out the door , we went home and ran a bath for the children , and began to cook tea once again my eldest took his uniform of ready for the washing machine , as I played with the children my partner was cooking tea , by the time tea was ready and we proceeded to set the table and serve , I strapped youngest in his high chair ready for his tea and sat my eldest up the table for his , this was around 6pm , when there was a sudden knock on the door my partner left the table to answer the door , suddenly the two people who we saw earlier at the nursery where standing in my living room , they were telling me and my partner that my eldest  needed to be taken to hospital the following day for the assessment when we explained we took my eldest to the drs as we were told to do , they replied it was not good enough and that the boys needed their assessments and the hospital , they then proceeded to hand us a a4 piece of paper with solicitors on it we became very confused , they told us we needed to contact a solicitor within the next few days as the local authority was applying to the court for removal for the children we were extremely confused but they told us we had plenty of time to contact a solicitor as it wasn’t going to be for a few days .the solicitors office was shut at this time . I contacted my sister feeling completely overwhelmed by the events of the previous day , I had no idea why all this was happening ,my sister and my brother stayed the night as we fed and bathed we all went to bed but nothing could prepare us of the event of the next day .

 

Friday 11th January 2019

We all awoke left confused about the acts social inflicted the previous days , we couldn’t really understand what was being told of asked of us , as we continued are everyday routine , I got the boys dressed , I got my eldest dressed into his uniform in the hopes that he will still be able to attend nursery later on that afternoon , I received a phone call from the local authority around 11am to say they will be there within the next hour ,my partner left with my sister and my brother to meet us at the hospital which was agreed the previous day , I packed a bag full of toys for my boys so they had things to do at the appointment and distract them from the confusion it could inflict , I packed both boys food and packed my youngest changing bag , they arrived around 12pm , and we drove to Norwich while travelling they didn’t really talk much apart from asking the odd question about court and did I manage to contact a solicitor and remind me not to worry as it wouldn’t be for a few days , we arrived in Norwich at around 12:50 , they then got the children out of the car and into the jenny Lynn ward they then informed me , we where in the wrong department and we needed to get the children back into the car , as we drove round looking for a place to park they asked was anyone meeting me here when I informed them that yes my sister , my partner and 3 brothers where they looked concerned , we then parked as I got both children out the car , one of the social workers remained in the car making phone calls as we walked the distance which was quite far across the car park towards the hospital I found it extremely embarrassing as their badges where clearly on show and everyone was looking in are direction they then walked me to the ward which they said was correct after about 20 mins they informed me that it wasn’t actually at the hospital and it was at a different place which they didn’t tell me the name of , I informed everyone off this and they were left confused on where to go once we arrived at the place this was around 1:40 pm , I then received a text message from the social worker  saying I needed to attend court at 2pm , with no notice I was left extremely confused I informed my partner he needed to meet me at the court I went to the appointment with my children and the local authority kept saying the same thing that I could leave the children with them if I like when I refused to they seemed to turn aggressive , I then agreed that if they pick my sister up from the court and leave my children temporally in her care , then drop me of at court they agreed , as I arrived at court I had no idea what was happening I was left feeling confused , intimidated and extremely scared and concerned about my children . it wasn’t till we arrived at the court that we found out what the local authority was planning , the children's barrister informed us that the local authority was requesting to the judge that the children go into care we were left asking why is the local authority doing this to us , why we were waiting on being heard in front of judge I felt extremely emotional and over whelmed by these events , five minutes before being heard in court I received a phone call saying due to the boys assessments results my youngest  needed to be taking to hospital for further tests , we then got called into court , because of the local authorities lies the judge ordered that due to the nature of the concerns my partner needed to remain at the home address and the children and myself where to go to my auntie till the further tests where done , the judge also added that he wasn’t happy that the local authority had no evidence , I went to stay in hospital in Reggie , my partner went home and my eldest went to my aunties , in a matter of hours my whole life was turned upside down and my family spilt I felt confused , heartbroken and completely devastated I couldn’t comprehend how my partner must have been feeling , but worse still the confusion and trauma my children where feeling due to the acts of the local authority , I got drove to the hospital by social and she was still asking me all these different questions I was still trying to get round the events what just happened I was left so confused I didn’t understand what was happen and I felt firing all these questions just made an already traumatic time worse , when we arrived at the hospital I was greeted by two other social workers , my sister and my children I asked what was going on when I was informed my youngest needed a ct scan and a full body xray the c scan was already done by the time I got there but needed to wait for his xrays to be done on the following Monday ,after playing round with my boys for a bit I was then asked to go into another room in the room was a dr a nurse three social workers my auntie my uncle I felt confused intimidated and scared then my social worker  told me I needed to sign this thing she just wrote with everyone , when I asked what it was about all I got told it was so I could stay with my children , I tried to read it but my social worker  put her arm over it in a way I couldn’t read it , I felt corned and forced to sign this paper work I knew nothing about and wasn’t given the opportunity to read , once again the actions of the local authority causing more unnecessary trauma and confusion before everyone leaving my social worker  said I was allowed to meet up with my partner I said the judge said we were only allowed to call each other and this must supervised , I decided I am only going to listen to the judge’s ruling and stuck to the terms set by the judge , once everyone left a nurse sat with me till it was time to take Reggie to a ward we both had a restless very confusing night .

 

The weekend following

I tried to follow the normal routine as best as I could due to the circumstance

 

I was surrposed to be out of hospital with both my babies on the Monday but the hospital left the test being done till Tuesday , and then they couldn’t find a consultant , and then after all that they lost my sons bloods 4 times so they needed to be redone , then they couldn’t contact my social worker , they left me hospital till Thursday and was going to keep me in till the Friday when they knew I had to prepare for court , it was not till I contacted my solicitor that they suddenly got in contact with my social worker and said I could go to my auntie by the time they were finished with their paper work it was 6’o clock maybe later I left to go to my aunties due to the time I was only able to spend 1 hour with both my boys together before their bed time during this already hard period the children where only allowed to contact their daddy for 10 seconds in the morning and 10 seconds at night , once I kissed the children goodnight , I wasn’t even allowed to tuck them in due to the rules the local authority set out , this was traumatic and heart-breaking citation on myself and partner , we couldn’t’ bare the impact this already messed up citation was already having on our children they must have been very confused and scared , I spent the next few hours preparing for court by the time I was finished ( if finished is the correct words I hadn’t even really begun) it was 11 ‘ o clock I could not do any more my head was mixed with different emotions and I felt over whelmed I needed to rest before court the following day but nothing could prepare me for what was going to happen over the following days …………………..  I have been a victim of the lies and actions of the local authority over the next few days I will be telling you more about my story . I want to prevent this from happening to others and raise awareness that this is happening this is real . #stopforcedadoption #fightforwhatsright #USANDTHEM